Get the Kids Involved

  • Tell them early. Keep your family inform as soon as you make the decision.  Get your family involved including the kids from the very beginning.  Keeping the children involved will provide them assurance that they matter.  Have regular meetings to keep them inform as to the progress of the new house.  Is important to give everybody time to express their feelings and concerns.
  • Be very clear that the decision is final. The most important thing is to always show your children you are sure of the decision and to always remain firm.  Wavering on your decision or expressing doubts will cause your children to worry and to feel even more uncertain then they do.
  • Give them as much information as they need. During your discussion with your children, make sure you let them know the general details of your move, including where, when, why and how. If they want to know more, they’ll ask. Too many details may overwhelm them. Give them time to absorb the news before you start giving them too much information.
  • Be positive. Tell your children the good things that will come from this move, and why it will be better for the entire family. Give them the advantages to moving. Be positive, but also realistic. Don’t make promises you can’t keep and don’t exaggerate just to generate excitement. Be honest.